#014: WORRY IS PRAYER FOR WHAT YOU DON'T WANT
I had a stressful situation recently where it cost me a chunk of the net profit income for the month. This was due to a circumstance out of my control.
It was frustrating and was a stressful situation and affected my health and also my day-to-day productivity.
All energy has a mass and, if we allow it, stress energy is heavy on us. A lot of the emotional stress we carry is programmed by someone else. They trick us to using our amazing co-creative abilities to manifest a negative reality. Instead we are seeing an awakening of using our immense power to manifest a positive reality.
This leads me to today. I wanted to share some of my research on the cause of stress and what is recommended to overcome it. I feel we have hundreds of triggers that can cause stress throughout the day. In the past, creating a system or practicing a daily routine like yoga, meditation/prayer has helped me reduce stress. But let’s dig a little deeper into what’s happening to your body.
In my opinion, I feel that stressful situations can make or break you. It can help you by learning new ways to solve the same problem that got you into the situation in the first place. Or it can bring your attitude down and research has shown that it affects your long-term health if it’s left alone and not handled. I researched the science behind stress and detailed it below.
The main causes of stress:
Lack of money or desire for money
Life changes and uncertainty
Irritants like negative news feeds, TV shows, mass marketing to create feelings of “lack”
Negative past experiences
For example, a common situation we all face here in Southern California is being late to an appointment due to traffic. So you’re sitting in traffic late to an important meeting, and you watch the time ticking away. Your hypothalamus (brain pictured below) is a control system in your brain that sends out the stress chemicals and hormones, the same hormones that trigger your body’s “fight or flight” response. This causes your heart to race, your muscles to tense up, and your breath to speed up. This brain trigger is designed to protect your body by preparing you to react quickly to emergencies. To react to an attack if you’re in battle.
Today, this response is overboard for a late appointment, but our body reacts to the situation in the same way if we leave this area of life untreated. Thankfully, we are not dealing with war on a daily basis where I live, so this can cause health risks if the stress response keeps firing day after day.
What are the warning signs of stress?
Stress day after day, can apparently wear down your body’s defense systems which leads to physical experiences detailed below. This is a laundry list and an eye opener:
Feeling of "being out of it"
Weakened immune system
Symptoms of indigestion or acid reflux
Increase in or loss of appetite
Muscle tension in neck, face or shoulders
Pounding heart and high blood pressure
Cold and sweaty palms
High blood sugar
General aches and pains, clenching jaw, grinding teeth
Weight gain or loss
Upset stomach, diarrhea
Fertility problems and missed periods for women.
Risk of heart attack
Fertility problems, missed periods
Weakened immune system
Unmanaged stress has negative side effects to so many aspects of our health.
Ideas to reduce stress
So it seems, in my opinion, there are tons of traps in our day-to-day that can lead us to “stressing out” and this is bad for our health long-term. But luckily there are ways to handle it.
“We don't rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.” - Navy Seals
Here are some ideas I found in my research to reduce stress.
A positive attitude.
Accept that there are events and circumstances that are not in your control.
Learn and practice relaxation techniques; meditation, yoga, or tai-chi. This is my favorite one.
Seek social support. Spend time with those you love. Find groups who are doing exactly what you’re doing and find better solutions to the problems you face. Implement them, so it reduces stress in the future when the same problem comes up.
Exercise regularly. Your body can deal with stress better when it is fit.
Being assertive instead of aggressive.
Assert your feelings, opinions, or beliefs and avoid becoming angry, defensive, or passive.
Eat healthy, well-balanced meals.
Learn better ways to manage/block your time to be more effective.
Make time for hobbies and interests to get your mind off of you day-to-day.
Set limits and say no to requests that would create excessive stress in your life.
Get enough rest and sleep: your body needs time to recover from stressful events.
Don't rely on alcohol, drugs, or compulsive behaviors to reduce stress.
Seek treatment with a mental health professionals trained in stress management. I would make sure you resonate with them and they’re qualified for what they do.
So it looks like the way to consistently handle the stress we deal with everyday, is to have a system in place, so we can convert the stress energy into something positive. A lot of what we do in business, as business owners and entrepreneurs, is based on the quality of problems we solve. The bigger the problems we face is directly related to the value created in the world, which is then the value exchanged for money. So in many ways, leaders expect bigger problems which also means we must create a system to handle the stress in the future.
I hope this post was helpful.