5 ways to lead with stress in leadership


Disclaimer: This post is highly reflective of the past 3 weeks of my life. I had irreversible things come up in my life (family member passed away and 4 family members dealing with health issues). 

The average American deals with stress 12 times per day.


Stress could become your ally and give you strength or it can make you immobile. It depends on how you use it. If you don't know how to deal with your stress, it could be fatal. According to WebMD, stress is connected to many health problems including:

  • heart disease
  • asthma
  • obesity
  • diabetes
  • headaches
  • depression
  • anxiety
  • gastrointestinal problems
  • Alzeimer's disease
  • accelerated aging
  • premature death

 "Balancing stress and recovery is critical not just in competitive sports, but also in managing energy in all facets of our lives. Emotional depth and resilience depend on active engagement with others and with our own feelings." - The Power of Full Engagement

Avoid stress with faith and letting go

When we hit lows, it's important to be hopeful. When we hit our highs, it's important to be humble. ( Lokai bracelet )

When we hit lows, it's important to be hopeful. When we hit our highs, it's important to be humble. (Lokai bracelet)

I had people in our family deal with death and sickness (hospital visits galore).

This was the root to a lot of stress and uncertainty. 

I felt I wanted to control everything however I had no control.

I just had to let go. 

Every one of our thoughts, emotions and behaviors have an energy consequence.

These thought are for better or for worse.

What is stress?

Stress is a modern day phenomenon that is permeating our lives.  

  • It is a state of emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances. 
  • The average American deals with stress 12 times in one day. 
  • When you're thinking in the future or in the last, feeling out of control, causes stress
  • Being in confident and in control of your daily goals dissolves stress. 

Why are we dealing with stress?


We deal with stress when our mind is on the future or the past and feeling out of control due to a specific uncertainty. 

How can I take action now and deal with stress?

 What if you pulled out a piece of paper and wrote these down so you can use it the next time you have to deal with stress? These are some of the things that have worked for me: 

1. Breathe deeply and say "I let go"


2. Focus on being present: 


 When you're stressing, your mind is in the past or the future.

Focus on being present by noticing the things around you and focusing on the little things.

Create a vision board and keep it near you to be inspired and motivated. 

3. Zoom out and think meta:


We get stressed because we focus on a micro-specific problem. What if you zoomed out and looked at the grand picture? Write down on a post-it note, 10 things that you're grateful for. Examples: I am grateful for running water, electricity, and my heart beating every second of everyday without me doing anything. 

4. Flip your perspective:


When you're stuck in traffic and want to shout and let the world know how much you hate traffic, reframe the situation as an opportunity and moment to yourself.

Listen to audiobook and learn something new or enjoy a moment of privacy before you go tackle your to-do list.

If it's about a client or colleague, look at the situation through their eyeballs. Feel what they're feeing.

5. Perform a random act of kindness



Since most of the time, we are doing things expecting a reward in return when you perform an act of kindness, you are accessing a different part of you.

This part of you is grateful time, trying something new, and therefore feeling good about contributing to others.

What if you performed one of these actions? Would it help you lead through stress?


P.S.  If you found this post useful, also see how you can get things done using a Power Up Morning Ritual or start a the habit of reading #10PagesPerDay with our book club. I've also found cold showers to immediately dissolve stress. See my 90 day experience here.